Choices -- Your Key to an Extraordinary Sex Life
Let's be frank, when it comes to sex, we've all wondered, "Is that all there is?"
Maybe those days of passion and excitement have waned, and some days you find yourself looking forward to a pedicure or a soak in the tub more than making love. Or, perhaps you yearn for less guilt about not being "into" sex and wish you had the ability to rediscover those days of passion and excitement.

After more than two decades as a certified sex therapist, and after listening to thousands of women of all ages, I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. And, you have the ability to make the right choices to achieve sexual well-being.

Honor the Real You
Are you tired of women's magazines urging you to try "Ten Tricks to Curl His Toes?" You wonder, "What do they know about being in a ten-year marriage with three kids, a hefty mortgage, and a growing `to-do' list?" What do they know about finding the right birth control, or the anxiety associated with the decision to take or not take hormone replacement for menopausal symptoms? And what about the stress today's single career experience women trying to balance heavy workloads with a semblance of a social life in order to find Mr. Right?

The bigger question is: How we can train ourselves to stop buying into notions of female sexuality that are unattainable and not representative of real women? After all, how many of your friends have bodies like Gisele, Heidi Klum, or Halle Berry? If the media wanted to help "real women," they'd feature one of these extraordinary beauties wearing a comfy pair of flannel pj's with a caption like, "You can be sexy in anything, because the secret to sexiness is YOU!"

In my experience, most women's anxiety and sexual insecurity comes from the fear that we can never really measure up to those bombarding, unrealistic standards. As soon as we even get close to those standards -- someone inevitably raises the bar. If we finally figure out how to have an orgasm in the first place, we hear that it may not be the "right" kind of orgasm or that we should have (gasp!) multiple orgasms. And who hasn't searched for their infamous G-spot?

Choose to Have an Extraordinary Sex Life
But don't give up! Sexual well-being is a part of your entire well-being -- the health of your mind, spirit, and body is essential to living a quality life. We don't want to stop having sex because we're too busy, too tired, or just not interested -- but it sometimes feels that way. Although being sexual means different things to different people, at its very core it symbolizes connection -- with our self and with our partner. Intimate connection is necessary for vibrant living.

The importance of intimacy and connection are what inspired the Sexual Well-Being area of the drugstore.com Web site. "Choices" are a primary theme, because in choice lies power. By giving you a range of choices, you can select what is right for you. We don't have a one-size-fits-all philosophy. Each woman is unique and has to make the kinds of everyday choices that fit her independently and in her relationships.

In the coming months, we'll be talking about things that are meaningful to you, including:
New creams and lubricants designed for women to enhance your sexual experiences.
How to negotiate with your lover and ask for what you want.
How to find that elusive G-spot and other techniques for a better love life.
How to introduce games and sexual toys into the bedroom.